The Dream

I’ve said it here before that earlier in the year I prayed that God would reveal things to me in dreams. Interestingly enough I had a few bad dreams last week that I didn’t pay attention to and should have, but last night’s dream sent a clear message. In real life there is a food truck that I absolutely love. In the dream there was a woman I met who cooked just like the people who run the food truck, but this woman had a terrible attitude. In the dream she wanted people to praise her cooking within a few minutes of eating their meal, and if you didn’t she would charge customers an additional $12 the next time they ordered. She had a calculator in her hand and a notepad, and she was telling me that because I was talking to my friends I owed her money. At first I got upset as if she was blackmailing me, but then I told the emotional blackmailer NO. I looked at her and said, then I won’t be buying your food anymore. She looked shocked and hurt, and then an enabler ran over and told me the words that woke me up in more ways than one. The enabler told me that as Christians we should pull her in closer and help her, to which I said no, only God and/or counseling can help her. Then I woke up. In real life I am blessed to have a powerful woman who speaks into my life, and she taught me a few weeks ago that we can’t “fix” people. That is something that only the Creator can do. She is absolutely right. How many times have we wanted to fix friends, family, or even spouses? They had problems that were beyond our abilities, but somehow we thought if we hung in there with them we could fix them. We can’t. We can love people, support people, and point them in the direction of help, but we cannot fix someone we did not create. At times I have found myself experiencing the following trying to do something I was never meant to do: frustration, helplessness, anger, and eventually bitterness because I couldn’t “fix” the person I cared about. I can’t believe it took me so long to figure this out and that it came as a result of being guided, but maybe it’s because it was the time God wanted to reveal it to me. All I know is that this is a freeing feeling.